Life of a doctor is more like a cuckoo in the clock , it has to go coookooo every hour whether it wants to or not .Working hard , not spending quality time with the folks or the life partner blah blah blah , hence a pathetic life . It's funny actually how doctors give the best advices about relationships in the clinics and yet they are very poor at it themselves.They tend to overlook the issue and end up face down, deep in the quagmire. It's easy spending more than half of our lives in denial when there are greater more serious problems and distractions at hand . Over worked and exhausted , too tired to try beauty and charms to lure the partners into sweet submission , a marked change in personality and behaviour is prominent. The casual obsession with work , thinking , discussing and even dreaming about it would easily push them away from the real world outside their bubbles . It's easy to mask unhappiness under heaps of books and work because to solve clinical dilemmas they have all the knowledge required , to solve life they need to live. With their days subjected to tasks that gear them up to take charge and in their own special ways , be a boss of their lives and decisions - while when at home the spouse or the partner may not like being bossed around , but then it is too late for them to change . Work is honored more than personal life , it is alright to miss a dinner date than to miss an appointment with a patient. There is a clear disappointment when they are not awed at ,as the patients do.
To live outside all that hassle(work) is not preferred , it is safe not to be thrown into practicality of the issues pertaining to emotions. If sick it is to be delayed till it turns into something serious . The ailments are to be dealt alone and not publicized , a doctor cannot and will not allow others to think he/she is not well. The utopia they live in is normally unseen and incomprehensible by ones even close to them.Their time is just not enough to get involved emotionally let alone flirt every now and then . Although flirting is easier than getting involved , but it requires sessions and demands energies , mental energies that better be spent studying cases . To seek help regarding any of it means they undermine their own capabilities , so to keep it simple , they are their own shrinks , psychiatrists and mentors. Easier said than done , the boundaries many talk of , between work and home are too weak . A healer , a socialist , a doctor to be exact cannot and would not ever rest . It's an even greater trouble if one's marrying someone from the same profession , it is like jumping into a mine , only that you never know when is the blast ( a divorce) expected . Theirs is a home with more medicines in the closets than family photos. Anxiety and nervous breakdowns should never be talked about or disclosed in a doctor's circles . A vacation ends up with emergencies that can't be dealt without your presence or someone filling in your space . Taking a day off means that a funeral has to be attended , anything less than that is negligence and a betrayal with work .
I for one cannot have a concluding word on it , to love nature , children , spouse , relatives , friends , contacts , social circles is GOOD medicine to me - but to live in an hour glass and do it ,is a task we all dream to achieve.
